020 CARRIE WOODCOCK

Carrie Woodcock is the founder of Total Transformation and the creator of the Becoming philosophy

- a framework for intentional living grounded in awareness, alignment, expression, and expansion.

Her work brings together decades of experience in health coaching, behavior change, personal training, and mental well-being, alongside a lifelong practice of reflection, creativity, and personal growth. Carrie holds credentials as a board-certified NBC-HWC Health Coach, ACE Personal Trainer and Behavior Change Specialist, PN Level 1 Nutrition Coach, and Mental Well-Being Certified Fitness Professional.

Transcript

SPEAKER_10 0:04

So you were looking for something to listen to, and you ended up here. What's up? My name is Ethan, and I'm the host of the show. Over the past 25 years, I've had a wild group of people walk through my tattoo shop and tell me some of the craziest stories you would never hear unless you were sitting in that chair. I've invited a few of these maniacs to join me and talk about everything, anything, and nothing. Whether it's about UFOs, aliens, food, conspiracies, or whatever, you're sure to be entertained and probably get a laugh out of it. Or you're gonna think we're a bunch of nutjobs and never come back again. Either way, you're here with us now, so sit back, relax, hit cruise control, and enjoy the ride. Welcome to the Tat and Chat Podcast. Yo, what's going on, people of the Tat and Chat universe? I'm hanging out with my friends, Renee. What's going on? Josh. What's up? And we have a guest tonight.

unknown 0:56

Wait.

SPEAKER_10 0:57

What's your name again? Oh, it's it's um, it begins with the C and ends with Woodcat. Carrie Woodcat.

SPEAKER_08 1:04

I was gonna say Carrie Underwood. I messed it up again.

SPEAKER_10 1:07

She's the prettiest guest since Eddie. That is pretty pretty. He's pretty.

unknown 1:13

Oh.

SPEAKER_10 1:14

He was on he was on Ricky Lake.

SPEAKER_03 1:15

Oh, yeah, I heard. I listened.

SPEAKER_10 1:17

That's right.

SPEAKER_03 1:17

You listened. I'm paying attention.

SPEAKER_10 1:20

That's good. She knows. Wait, she probably knows more about us than we know about each other. Because I don't even pay attention. I hear you guys talk. I'm like, oh, whatever the fuck, I don't even pay attention.

SPEAKER_09 1:28

We know that about you. What?

SPEAKER_10 1:30

What can we do? That was a lie.

SPEAKER_09 1:32

Okay. You can text him something. Two minutes later, he will ask you exactly what you texted him. Like, dude, read a freaking text. I can't read.

SPEAKER_10 1:42

Jesus. So I have someone whisper to my head. Don't talk that way to me. Yeah. They just said in my ear that you shouldn't allow your co-host to talk that way to you. It looks bad on air. Don't do it. Too much. Just kidding. There's nothing in my ear. That came from me. And I can read. So Carrie.

SPEAKER_03 2:02

What's up?

SPEAKER_10 2:03

You uh you uh you are an author. I am. You are a musician. I am and a mother and a human being that we know of. We all may be aliens, but you wrote some books. You have some books coming out right now. You have some new stuff coming out or just coming out, right? Yep. That just came out. So why don't you uh you want to tell us a little bit about you and what's going on and then we'll start this whole thing.

SPEAKER_03 2:34

Sure, sure. So um I guess it in 2014 I opened my own business. I'm um uh board certified health coach. I wasn't back then, but I am now, and I am a personal trainer and I taught fitness classes, and and then real quickly after opening my own business, I kind of switched more towards um an overall holistic point of view because realistically I think that that's what you have to look at in order to maintain a healthy lifestyle and motivation to keep any kind of fitness routine. Like anybody can look up a workout. Exactly. Anybody can look up a workout on the internet and you know it it'll work, but it's all about diving into the motivation of what moves us, what motivates us, what doesn't motivate us, like overcoming the obstacles that life life that get in the way, right? Because we all have busy, crazy life, so it's held it that shit right there that really makes or breaks it.

SPEAKER_10 3:32

I don't know if they really work because I swear to God, over the last what you know, the internet time I've said, oh man, yeah, I'm gonna look up this thing. Oh yeah, the military diet. I'm gonna do if I do 10 push-ups every 10 minutes, I'll look like that guy. Or, oh yeah, if I just if I I won't run on the Twinkie diet, if I only eat Twinkies, you definitely lose weight. People do it. I mean, look at super size. I mean, he ate McDonald's and he lost weight, right? Well, I don't know if he really did, but my point is here's the thing.

SPEAKER_03 3:59

You do any workout like push-ups, and they're gonna make your muscle stronger, but it also you have to take into consideration how many calories you're burning, as well as what you're putting in your body, what nutrition you're putting in your body. Because if you have starts in the kitchen, honey. Yeah, if you have like fat over top of your muscle, you're still gonna be muscular underneath, but you're not gonna see it because there's layers of everything out there.

SPEAKER_10 4:24

You know, underneath it does work. Underneath all this, there is something. I know there is, I know there is. It's yes, but I think a lot of people are starting to gravitate toward that idea anyway, right? Like the whole thing, like you hear you well, you hear more people talk about um you know workouts 10% and exercise or diets 90%. I don't know if that's the fraction, but like it's it's like that. People are doing if people are you've ever watched alone? Yeah, dude, those guys get starved themselves for about 30 days and they all look jacked. Yeah, and then they look really sick about two weeks later. But but you lose all that fat and your body, you're just not you don't you don't collect all that, and and underneath, I mean we're all we all you have muscle and and it's there, you know what I mean? It's just yeah, more people are focused on oh, I'm gonna work out, I'm gonna get like this, I'm gonna get I want to bulk up, so then they're getting bigger and bigger and bigger, but like um you're not losing that fat.

SPEAKER_09 5:15

Yeah, my problem is portion size. Like the when you're at a restaurant and they come over and you order the steak, and then like, would you like an eight ounce or a 40 ounce?

SPEAKER_10 5:24

And it's like, I mean, I could get 40. What's the price difference? Yeah, exactly. Three bucks, yeah, yeah. Give me the 40 ounce.

SPEAKER_03 5:33

Well, there's no question that our society is working against us. Like, look at all the all the stuff in the grocery store that's like extremely processed that can sit on a shelf for three years for a reason because there's a bunch of crap put in it that will preserve it for that long. Did you see my Twinkie?

SPEAKER_10 5:47

Did you see my Twinkie? Look at the wall, see the Twinkie over there? I'll show it to you guys after. Like, yeah, bring the camera over there. So there's a Twinkie on the wall. Say that's it's that idea. Um one day, Ethan was here. I'm gonna tell this story, and it's it's not right, and he will say it, but Ethan, do not interrupt your camera guy today. So Ethan comes in, he's like, Oh, dad, I was gonna go up back and he had a Twinkie. He's like, and I want to eat it, and he's like, and it expired almost a year ago. I'm like, that's gross, so don't eat it. He's like, Well, look how good it looks. I'm like, cool. So this is my version of the story. So he says, Hey, can I have some money? And I'm like, Yeah. He goes up to the store and he buys a pack of Twinkies and he opens them up side by side and shows me. And uh, and he's like, Can you tell the difference? I'm like, no, I mean, I he's he's like, Me either. I'm like, well, no, you you can't eat that one. So he threw it away, whatever. But he's like, let's keep this one Twinkie and do an experiment. He's like, What do we do with it? I'm like, stick it on my wall right there. So every time I'm tattooing somebody, they come in everybody, every day, three times. What's up with the Twinkie? I'm like, it's an emergency, just in case. I'm like, oh shit, I'm really hungry. I can have a Twinkie. But truth is, that Twinkie is over two years expired now, and it looks pretty fucking good.

SPEAKER_08 6:54

Listen, in Iceland, the banned McDonald's after the military of US left the base closed, they closed the McDonald's. The very last cheeseburger made from McDonald's is sitting in a museum in Iceland intact, identical to the day it was lastly made. Isn't that weird? I think it was fucking 20 years ago. Sorry, but it really was that far.

SPEAKER_10 7:19

So the point is. Would you eat it though?

SPEAKER_08 7:20

Nah. There's a lot of food. We have a lot of food.

SPEAKER_10 7:23

We have a lot of food like that in our in our diet. We do. Do you so so do you ever do the outs um surf the out the outer edge of the store? Don't go in.

SPEAKER_03 7:31

Yeah, that that's like one of the general, like kind of rules of thumb. Like try to shop on the outside of the grocery store. That's where your produce is and where your meats are and where your dairy is. And you know, it's just it's kind of like if you don't know what you're doing and you don't want to read labels, like it's a little bit safer to shop around the outside of the grocery store.

SPEAKER_10 7:48

Shop around the outside. That's a fact.

SPEAKER_03 7:50

That's an easy way to go and fill your cart with healthier farmer markets too.

SPEAKER_08 7:55

In the summertime, like get out there and eat your local seasonal produce. That just does a lot.

SPEAKER_10 8:02

Did I tell you this story? I probably said it on here. And if I did, you you're listening, you've listened, so you might call you out of the house. Can I tell you about the Amish? The Amish vegetables? Did you hear about it? Go for it, go for it. I don't think so. There was this Amish guy up the road from me. He grows fucking onions that are like this big. And his food is just great. Did I talk about this on here before?

SPEAKER_09 8:20

Uh you've told me, but I don't know if it was on.

SPEAKER_10 8:22

I don't remember hearing it. Okay, so he grows all some vegetables. So we would go there. He does pumpkins. I don't want to be quiet. I want to talk. Take a sip, take a sip of your coke, and then uh listen. Um, so so he fucking grows this badass these this vet these vegetables. They're huge. I'm like, Jesus Christ, these Amish really know how to grow shit. And he's always hopping. Tons of people, tons of people go there. So one day, you know, we're doing our garden, and my wife stops, she says, Hey, she's like, How do you how do you eat your vegetables so big? And he's like, he's like, Oh, he's like, he's like, Don't you come by in the morning? You always drive by and you see me spraying it. I'm like, or like, oh yeah, yeah, I do see him out there, you know. So he's spraying it with pesticides, right? Like Roundup must be, I'm assuming, right? He's like, but you're supposed to dilute it like two, two to dilute it two to three or something like that. He's like, we don't even dilute it, we just put it on straight because it's the only way it works. I'm like, uh everybody's going to this Amish because he's got skills growing this massive fruit, and all of a sudden I'm like, oh fuck, the reason why it's so goddamn big is because he doesn't give a fuck and he's not paying attention to any of the goddamn rules. And he's just like loading that shot. It's it's worse than anything you could get at the store. Even it like it's it's it's full of these chemicals. And I'm like, I have not gone there and got um vegetables from again because I'm like, definitely won't go on your street.

SPEAKER_05 9:35

Ugh.

SPEAKER_09 9:35

That's why we brought the Amish kit on because we wanted him to answer for his crimes, but yeah, he we decided to take it easy.

SPEAKER_07 9:44

That's what's going on. Answer for your crimes. You put the round up on the tomatoes.

SPEAKER_10 9:50

Do you poison the the potato, right? I mean, that's does at that point it doesn't matter though. When you're when your onions that goddamn big, yeah, at that point, like around the right. And it's so if they're so if they collect any kind of seeds because and or they're cut, you know, like potatoes, you can take an old batch, cut them in half, put them in a dark place, they start the root, then you replant them. So if you got potatoes this fucking big, I don't know how big their potatoes are, but my point is eventually that shit's gonna be in its in its makeup, right? Yeah, it's a roundup. Um I think it's roundup, I'm assuming. I mean they don't dilute it. Crazy. So anyway, back to back to your book. So you have so you have a book out. So what what is what is the book called? That's the most recent book. So so it's you have a whole bunch of stuff.

SPEAKER_03 10:32

You can talk about whatever you need. No, I know I know. Where'd you start, right? So I love it. Um a year and a half ago, I had well, first COVID hit, and that kind of jacked up my whole plan, right? Because everything I did was service related. At that point, I was playing music out, I was teaching fitness classes, I was doing coaching, but I wasn't doing any online coaching. It was more uh in-person. And um, so I was just working for myself at that point. So what happened when COVID hit was I was everything I did was shut down. So I was like, okay, I either need to close this, and I thought about that very seriously, or I need to rethink things and I need to take a different approach so that I can sustain myself and not be put in. Adapt exactly. So that was when I got a call from the superintendent at Ogdensburg, and they said, We don't have a music teacher. Will be will you be our music teacher through well, they didn't say through COVID, they just said, Will you be our music teacher? And I'm like, What I don't know what you're talking about. Like, you can't just be a music teacher, and I am a self-taught musician, and I am not a teacher, you know. I went to school for psychology, and he said they could didn't have a certified teacher, so uh you they could the board could appoint whoever they wanted, so they called and asked me. So I ended up for a year and a half teaching uh pre-K to sixth grade music, which taught me a whole bunch of shit because yeah, like I had I taught myself to play the piano because I was like, can't be a music teacher without knowing how to play the piano, right? Yeah, they're all up there ding you have to do a Christmas concert. I did, I had to do a Christmas concert, right? So but it's but when I went in, it was COVID, right? So you couldn't sing, you couldn't use instruments, they couldn't even come to my classroom. I had like a little cart that I would have to go around, and I and I was like, they're like, Can you start Tuesday? And I'm like, what the fuck am I supposed to teach these kids?

SPEAKER_05 12:19

Like, I don't know, right?

SPEAKER_03 12:21

Your hands are an instrument, yeah. But you're a woman, so you got this. Yeah, so and I think one of my strengths, one of my very my biggest strengths in any any aspect is just that I like to think outside the box, right? Like I'm good at figuring shit out when there isn't uh always a logical explanation. So I ended up figuring it out for a few months, and then that Christmas, my friend said to me, Carrie, why are you not writing a song with your kids? You're not doing what is your like what you do best. Why are you not doing that? And I was like, Well, you know, a song doesn't always come out. Like, what if I what if a song doesn't come out? And I think I've seen this movie.

SPEAKER_09 13:00

I there was a Jack Jack Black played you in the movie.

SPEAKER_03 13:03

Oh, Jesus.

SPEAKER_05 13:06

But it's a true we end what that's a fact.

SPEAKER_10 13:10

I know it's school of rock.

SPEAKER_05 13:12

School of Rock, you're right. And I don't even know if I've seen this movie.

SPEAKER_10 13:15

Oh my gosh, he's kicking people out of the room. She's like, okay, Johnny, you go over there and watch the door, make sure no principal walks by. Jen, you are a fantastic flute player. You're gonna be our lead flute player. That's School of Rock.

SPEAKER_03 13:28

We ended up for the year and a half I was there. We wrote a song with the whole school, like right from pre-K. And we talked about, we titled it Get Through. We decided I went through all the mechanics of songwriting with them, like what the message was that they wanted to send. And it was about them getting through. And they talked about a lot of the things that they struggled with. A lot of the things, like some of them had parents that were essential workers and weren't home. And then they talked about missing sports and missing their friends and birthday parties, and like, and so we put all of that into the lyrics of the song, and then I brought in my recording equipment and set now. Since we couldn't all sing together and you had to be six feet apart, I recorded them individually, and that's awesome. And then I merged all their voices. So there was like 200 over 200 kids that participated in writing the song and then singing it, and then the littler ones, I would record them like playing like little instruments on the floor. By then, we could do instruments and they uh would dance along with it, or you know, they would sing. They all thought they were rock stars.

SPEAKER_10 14:32

This is real school of rock. This is so sweet. You said something about you're a woman, you can do anything. This is exactly how a woman would handle it. That's exactly what it's like. I would probably handle it like Jack Black and start a band, find the best kids, push all the ones to the side.

SPEAKER_03 14:43

This is that's really cool. You know what? I think it's funny. I was in the situation where I was like, I don't know what I'm gonna do going forward because everything for me was wiped out. So, so I had to rethink my what my approach was gonna be. And this I first viewed as just a way to buy some time to kind of figure things out. But then we talked about so much stuff and all the stuff that I do, like with my coaching and like the the philosophy in the book that I'll talk about. You guys, so many kids through such a hard time in some of the conversations we had, right down to the little two-year-olds or not two-year-olds, two second graders. Like, they're little, and it's all about like you can talk to them about that stuff, you just have to put it in a way that they can understand. Yes. And it was an a really incredible experience. Now, we I also videoed them, so there's actually a video of it, and I merged everything all together. And it was awesome. It was really cool.

SPEAKER_08 15:41

Is it something that we could like maybe learn about? Yeah, how do we hear the song?

SPEAKER_03 15:45

I I I actually um it was the kids were all about putting it on YouTube and seeing how much they could get. Yeah, yeah, and then the school like shut it down, shut like, yeah. So it was like only with going on. I know. I was like, they all have permission signed off. I didn't put anybody in there, but they it had to be like they somebody had to have the link to watch it. So some people could, but I don't even think they have it on the YouTube anymore. But I have it um like in my Google Docs or something, so I could like send it to you guys to check out. That's awesome. It's really, really cool.

SPEAKER_09 16:18

Sure. But you have pictures of Bigfoot on there too.

SPEAKER_03 16:22

No, I'm just kidding.

SPEAKER_10 16:23

Definitely Josh loves Bigfoot. That's why there's a Bigfoot sign on the wall. I got it from as a gift because he loves Bigfoot. That was really cool. That was probably so wonderful. When I was a kid, I was at um I remember I was at the Catholic school, then I went to Kennedy School, and I remember when I went there, it's it was like I was in like maybe third grade or something like that. So it was like kind of weird moving from school to school. I went from this like yeah, OCCS was like kind of like a private Catholic school, you know. It wasn't private, but I mean I think I think you had to pay to get there. Oh my god, we only got an hour. Let's go. Then we went to the public school, and I remember the teacher there, the music teacher. That's one thing that got me really into music. I was in music before, but she was like, she played and the cats and the cradle and this like and I didn't like that song, but back in the in the 80s or whatever, that was like that teacher must have thought it was cool, was you know, a couple years before, and she had everybody playing an instrument, and it was kind of sounds like that vibe, but it got me motivated because music's not like that now. I don't think going to school and being in in the in the band, it's not like being in the band. Like you kind of created like a band situation for these kids. I did. That's cool. That's really weird.

SPEAKER_03 17:26

They totally, they totally owned it. Like they thought they were rock stars.

SPEAKER_08 17:29

Can I ask you what school? It was Kennedy.

SPEAKER_03 17:32

That's so cute. Yep. And uh it was it was really good experience. Now having said that, I feel like so. They this helped get them through a tough time.

SPEAKER_08 17:42

And that's why Kennedy? Yes, they did.

SPEAKER_10 17:44

They might have during that time. It was like six years ago, right? It was no, they were over that.

SPEAKER_03 17:49

They're over that yeah. Um, so so I've I truly feel like it helped them express some of the things that they were going through during that time. Absolutely. But I also feel like I needed that to reassure yourself, yeah. And I feel like it reassured me on what my purpose was and what my passion was, and that I absolutely should push forward. Because look, I mean, we wrote a song and that was fun, but we talked the conversations that we had and the realizations that those kids had. So it was, and that's and that's what I was like, I can't not do that. This is what I'm supposed to do, you know. So I did uh go back to it after that, and then so then um I started working at step by step. So I kind of do the coaching, I teach workshops, I teach meditation, I do um lots of work in the community, like home and community-based service services there. And then I also got certified like a mental well-being for fitness professionals because I also work in you know a mental well-being field. So I and I feel like that plays in so much to everything that we do that I think there's more awareness around it after COVID, but I still don't think that it's like a trend that mental health is, yeah, you know, but I don't think that our society is truly accepting yet. They are not. I feel like it there's progress, right? And at least it's at least it's a conversation that's happening, but I think there's still a lot of awareness that you're gonna do.

SPEAKER_08 19:20

Yeah, why is there a difference between getting your teeth fixed and getting your head fixed? Like, why is there so many taboos? So break those, girl. Good for you.

SPEAKER_03 19:28

That's that's part of it. And then um, last two December ago, I had to have a knee replacement. So I was down and out for quite a while with that, more than I expected. And it kind of threw a wrench in everything that I did physically, which I've done for a long time. And so at that point, I that's when I went and got my board certification. I became a nutrition coach. I got a couple other things, and then so now I'm to the point where I actually like walked four miles last night and I was super good job stoked to be and I was able to ride my bike a couple of weeks ago, and that's the first time I've been able to do that.

SPEAKER_08 20:04

After an injury, it's hard to give yourself the courage, right?

SPEAKER_09 20:07

I feel like she's picking on me. Oh Josh.

SPEAKER_08 20:10

Yeah, she is bragging, she's putting out a challenge.

SPEAKER_03 20:13

I'll tell you what, I never I knew it was gonna be hard, but I never thought I'd be on a walker as long as I was on a cane, that I wouldn't be able to ride my bike a year later, it's still swollen. Like I just never thought the recovery would would be as hard as it was. But what I did during that time, I I also felt like I I don't know if I was in a depression, but it definitely impacted me emotionally, psychologically, because what I did was I mean, that's what my release was. That was like almost meditative for me, was like walking and doing all those things. And I suddenly couldn't do any of those things, and I was I was probably pretty miserable to be around at some points in time, you know. And I wondered if I was ever gonna be able to do that stuff again. So I I had to like again rethink things, and that was when I really dove into the education because I enjoy that part as well, and then now the newest book that is is just coming out, it's a series and it's kind of a culmination of everything I've done over the last 15 years, and it's it's called uh Becoming the Philosophy of Intentional Living. So it's it's like a five book series, and it is about this. Is the first one in the five in the series of five books? Actually, the first three are out.

SPEAKER_10 21:31

So this is the number three.

SPEAKER_03 21:32

This is number three. So the very first one is just an overview of the philosophy, and then there's four um parts of it. The first is, and I actually set it up so that it aligns with the seasons. So it's like the spring is awareness, the summer is alignment, the fall is expression, and then winter is integration. So it's like first you become aware of everything that's going on. Sometimes you just have to stop and think, think and reflect and spend time like actually becoming aware of. What is going on because we get so busy that we and we get so caught up on what other people expect of us and you know, like to stop and take a step back and actually become aware. And then the next step is to realign your make sure that what you say your values are and what's most important to you that you're actually following through with those actions in your life so that there's not like a misalignment between what you're doing and what you're saying you believe is the most important. And then the fall is expression, and that is where you are now you're kind of in line yourself, and now it's your expression and the world around you. It's your work, it's your relationships, it's everything else around you, it's how you show up in the world. And then integration is moving forward with intention. So the third book is actually summer. So the first one is the overview, then it's spring and it's summer. And that one, it's you can find it on Amazon, but I haven't done anything yet. I'm actually having like a release party on June 20th because it's a summer solstice. Where will dad be? That's gonna be at my house, and you guys are all more than welcome to come. It's uh so it's become like this huge project because now I've been working like crazy putting together this huge garden project at my house. So I'm having a summer solstice book release, Twilight garden party with like tarot readings and stuff. So who's your tarot reader? The Witch of the North? I would love for you to come and do that. That would be amazing. If you want to, yes. I have another girl that's coming in that's just a friend of my niece. I had bought some and I was like, I don't have time to learn how to do this. So I'm gonna have to have somebody.

SPEAKER_08 23:45

But it's aligned a lot with what you do, like the work that I do. Totally.

SPEAKER_10 23:48

Like the whole chakra and so it's like so it's it's it's overall health, like great like spiritual health, yes, like like actual physical health and like not not just like some diet plan type of thing.

SPEAKER_03 24:00

It's over this is overall like you need to like be conscious of what you're putting in your body. Um, but I also believe in moderation. I don't believe in eliminating completely anything that you like because you know what, then you're just gonna deprive yourself and you're gonna go off the rails, and that's where things fall apart. So it's about like sustainability in working healthy behaviors and habits into your life, but also looking at life on a deeper level for yourself and really looking at those things that are gonna be what drive your motivation, like all those misalignments. If you are out of alignment, then you're gonna get frustrated, you're gonna fall off, you're gonna get mad at yourself, you're gonna blame yourself, you're gonna, you know, and then you're gonna be again, I'm just gonna quit. Right. I mean, that's what happens over and over again for all of us. The reason that all these plans fail is not because they're not a good workout plan. It's because of all the other shit that goes on in life that we have to navigate. And when you don't have something that's sustainable, realistic, overall holistic. Like, like, for example, I some of the books that I've published before, they're called foundations, and it's it's more like um behavior change, habit breaking. So it's like documentation, you set goals, you check them off a list, and whatever. If that that's called foundations, then it's called foundations because it's a building a solid foundation of healthy habits. Like if you can't complete that, how are you gonna get to the next step?

SPEAKER_10 25:27

You gotta that that first book, you gotta kinda get through all that.

SPEAKER_03 25:30

Yeah, well, no, that's actually not becoming that's a different, but it they're related, right? So this is like your habit tracker, basically. But you also have to dive into what you want your life to look like, and it it really is about manifestation and it's about um identifying why you're here, what it is that you're hoping to accomplish, because those things are what really, really truly affect your motivation. So then if foundations is the ground, it's like the the structure that you build of solid, some of it is like go to bed earlier, drink more water. Some of it is very foundational to your everyday, maybe your sleep. Like that's something that we push to the side when life gets busy. We don't get as much sleep as we need, or you know, things like that. Um, also some other goals like your exercise, whatever, they're different for everybody because it depends on what you want to accomplish. Self-care varies from one to the other, yes. Absolutely. And some of them for me are like more career-related goals. Like when I'm writing a book, then it's right for 15 minutes a day. Whatever anything that you want to accomplish. It's really literally accountability for your behavior every day, is what that is. Yes. But if foundations is that, then becoming is like the ground that it's built on. It's like the philosophy that is about the expectations of should and looking at that word and all the things about like, are you do you really want those things in your life, or is it just because everybody else has told you that that's what you should want? Or you know, living in the present instead of worrying about or blaming yourself for things in the past and letting that go, and but maybe not focusing so much on the future. It's like about how you show up in the world, it's uh it's maybe the stories that we've told ourselves. Like, like we've talked about imposter syndrome. That's something that I talk about in there, right?

SPEAKER_10 27:20

Like, well, it's funny because I was gonna say that because like I I met Carrie, we we've been part of the same scene for a long time. We're we're pretty much the same age, and I know her brother pretty well. And he's like, dude, you gotta talk to my sister, man. You two remind me so much of each other. I'm like, Yeah, yeah, I'll talk to her, I'll talk to her. And then one this not too long ago, a couple maybe three, four months ago, yeah, he said, I'm gonna give you her a number. So we start talking, and it's funny to hear her talk because like it's the sit it's a lot of the stuff I do in my life. Everybody's like, Oh, you're so talented. How do you do this? You make your movies, you're in a band, you do this. Oh my god, oh my god. And I'm like, I'm just I just keep going. I just keep like telling myself I can. I'm like, if somebody can do it, then I can do it. You know what I mean? Like, but like the point is, if you want something like it for me, it was always opportunities don't always create uh present themselves. Sometimes you have to create an opportunity. And and I remember when I started talking to you and you started telling me about all this stuff, and and and we're working together right now, you're helping me kind of pull all my stuff together. Who is Ethan? You know what I mean? Like what are my goals? One umbrella, basically. And it's really cool to hear, and it's it's cool to hear you talk about it and stuff because it's like I think anybody could use it, any one of us can use it for something, you know. It's it's it's just a matter of like prioritizing, putting it there, how bad do you want it, how do you fit it into your life, and and how do you how do you make it work? And how and how you know you know, a lot and like for me, it's entertainment, right? So it's me, it's art, it's being an artist and doing these things. I gotta have that in my life so I can continue to be, yeah, I'm just happy all the time, you know. I get pissed, I get depressed, you know, but I don't get bummed like some people. But as long as I can work it into my life, I know who I am, I know what I want, I know what I want to accomplish. But I think a lot of people just kind of don't. They're like, I want something.

SPEAKER_03 28:50

You know, you want to follow your passion purpose. We're all but we're also like adults and we have responsibilities, and you can't just like throw everything aside and only do yeah, but it's not gonna get you can, right?

SPEAKER_10 29:00

You know, I know some guys that do that, and I mean I think they're like I think they pay more than half their paycheck and child support now and stuff. Yeah, you I mean you can do that, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 29:08

You can, you can, but I don't know if it's smart. Yeah, I don't think it's really what I do is about like trying to help people focus on what it is that's important to them because we get so busy, like our lives are so busy with responsibilities, obligations, kids sight of ourselves, yeah. We don't stop sometimes and think we lose sight of ourselves exactly like we don't stop and really think, wow, what do I want my life to look like? Who am I? Who am I? Right, and do I even deserve that? And then we start to go through all the self-ball and questions and so so sabotage, self-sabotage. So what I do is really all that type of work, and I and I that's what I set up my coaching groups like. Um were very holistic because oh, I started to say like with an example. So I always do my own foundations program because I started that probably about 10 years ago now, and basically my whole life fell apart. I got divorced and left. My son and I were sleeping on an air mattress on the floor in like an old rundown farmhouse. And I was like, okay, how the hell am I gonna pull my life together? So this is what came out was okay, this is what I want my life to look like. This is how I'm gonna do it. And I refused to come go crawling back because I can't survive on my own. I will live in a cardboard box first. So I buckled down and that eventually became became foundations. At that time, it was just my daily checklist to hold myself accountable so that I could pull my life together. Survival mode.

SPEAKER_10 30:42

Well, you put it into a package that other people can utilize.

SPEAKER_03 30:45

Yes, and wonderful. And what I did after that was I was at that point coaching people. Um, so I learned real quick that somebody who doesn't do the work themselves every day, like I can help you through it, but I can't do the work for you. I can't make you go to the gym, I can't control what you put in your mouth, I can't control anything about except for our meeting meeting times.

SPEAKER_10 31:09

That's like every that's like every artist I know. Like they have create tons of great ideas, tons of like ideas, right? And but like it to like manifest it into something, yeah, is is fucking hard. It's hard.

SPEAKER_03 31:21

So what I did at that point was I had to create a way. I created a way for myself to be accountable, but I also started using it with all my clients because they were gonna come to me and have an excuse like this isn't working. And the blame at that point is gonna be your program doesn't work. But I need them to be accountable for their behavior when they're not with me. So they would bring their books to me. Started out, I would just buy planners and then I would make them write the stuff out, and then they would check everything off every day. And then when we met, I would go through it. And if I mean they could lie on them, but where is that gonna get them? They would definitely do that. Well, they're paying me for their services, and they're I mean, there's no point in that, right?

SPEAKER_09 31:59

You gotta be the smartest woman I know. She she had kids write a song for, and she had people write books for.

SPEAKER_03 32:06

Like, but I mean, I had to keep them accountable because otherwise it was coming back on me. Like I learned real quick, uh what I did, I got into because I wanted to help people. So you tend to overextend yourself, you tend to do things like you want to do it for them, you want them to be successful so bad, but I can't, I couldn't make that make that happen. I could guide them and give them the tools, but it's up to them to put in the effort. And I needed them to be accountable for their actions, period, because otherwise that was gonna come back on me and I was gonna fail because they were gonna say, uh, it doesn't work. Yeah. Yeah, it doesn't work because you're not doing the work.

SPEAKER_10 32:45

Well, it's like it's like when I went on a diet and I started using my fitness pal. This one time I used it for like three months religiously, every fucking meal, every single thing. And as it got to the top, I was like, damn, I can't eat anymore. So then I started getting smarter the next day. I was like, okay, I can't eat so much in the morning because I'm gonna run out of calories. So I started breaking it out. But when I used it properly, I actually shredded like tons of weight, like almost 40 pounds, and like like throughout a summer and stuff. People are like, I had this one guy, he's like, Hey, are you okay? I'm like, What do you mean? He's like, You lost a lot of weight quick. I'm like, I literally am like And your hair looks like you have cancer. I I've I've I've growing my hair. But for real, but for real, I when you you when you use those things, like you said, right? It's like it's like anything. Once you use these tools properly, you will see results if you do it.

SPEAKER_03 33:31

If you do it, you will. But that's the problem.

SPEAKER_10 33:33

Nobody wants everybody procrastinates. Everybody says they want to do it. I don't know why I can't lose weight. I eat salads every day. I'm like, yeah, but you put four chicken tenders on there and tons of ranch dressing. You might as well just have a cheeseburger. You want some crew too? Or a chicken burger.

SPEAKER_09 33:47

I'm the same way, but I feel bad for my pizza if I don't put ranch on it. I feel bad for my salad if I don't put like pizza beside it or cheeseburger or something.

SPEAKER_10 33:56

It's like I eat a salad, and then I eat my chicken parmen pasta. Back.

SPEAKER_09 34:01

Yeah. But no, I think I think a lot of people. I do love salad. I really do. I just like the dressing more. So I think like olive garden salad. Oh, that's pretty good. Oh, that's so good. It's pretty good. I have bottles of it in my fridge. It's really good. I just drink it sometimes. The uh the dressing.

SPEAKER_08 34:17

Like I shaken this.

SPEAKER_09 34:18

I don't know if I could do that, but the Italian uh dressing from it. Yeah, it's like too much. I would never do it at home.

SPEAKER_10 34:23

But like when I'm there, I'm like, this is good.

SPEAKER_09 34:25

I put it on like sandwiches, I put it on a lot of stuff.

SPEAKER_08 34:28

It's never even thought about that. That'd be great. On a turkey subject, that's right.

SPEAKER_10 34:34

Jersey Mike's ever jersey mic's yet? Yeah, it's delicious. Oh my god, I love that place. This turned in this is this started.

SPEAKER_09 34:41

This started as a healthy show, and now we're just like eating a bunch of food.

SPEAKER_03 34:47

Eating is healthy. You've been in Buffalo caring. Eating healthy. Yes, but here's my take on it. Oh, I don't know. I don't believe that you should cut any of that stuff out of your diet. You shouldn't eat it every day. But I believe that you shouldn't deprive yourself of the things that you really like because then that's when you go off the rails. Like moderation is so much more sustainable than have the chips, Ethan, a handful, not the bag.

SPEAKER_08 35:12

What have I been telling you for things? Have a cookie, a cookie, not a whole row of the freaking Oreo.

SPEAKER_09 35:18

Sarah, if you're listening, Carrie said I can keep drinking Capitol Morgan.

SPEAKER_10 35:22

So just start using Diet Coke.

SPEAKER_09 35:24

No, no. If I have to use diet Pepsi, I'm just gonna stop drinking. Yeah.

SPEAKER_10 35:31

The kids have always been like, Dad, can I have a is it cool if I had pizza right now? We had pizza last night. I'm like, well, within moderation, you can have anything. You know what I mean? You can't eat a half a pizza like I do. You can have a slice or two, and it's it's it's reasonable. But you can't eat four slices for lunch and then eat four slices for dinner, and then have a cookie for lunch, and then have a cookie after dinner. You know, you gotta like pick and choose, like have one cookie at the end of the day or something like that.

SPEAKER_03 35:52

I also like I so I also take like I get the whole grain pizza crusts at Price Chopper, which are wicked good, and then you use like olive oil to cook it on, so it's not a bunch of.

SPEAKER_08 36:05

Like, I'm not a buy by the crust. She's a baker. Yeah, I am. I stay-at-home mom, so what I do, I make my food from scratch.

SPEAKER_03 36:15

Yeah, I don't buy the yeah, and I and when I make those, so and I would prefer to make it from scratch, but I don't. But um, you do that and then you put vegetables on it, and you choose like the healthier options to go with it, and it's just it's excellent, it's so good, but it's not like going to Pizza Hut and having something that did you ever have the um the um cauliflower pizza Cam's?

SPEAKER_10 36:39

No, I never did. That was good. That was actually one of the few caliber.

SPEAKER_03 36:42

They've made a cauliflower crust. The way they do cook cauliflower. That's it.

SPEAKER_10 36:46

Dude, the way they make it at the way they used to make it at Cam's, I guess it was like uh egg white and cauli, cow like a boy, like a soft and cauliflower mix. Dude, it was actually I actually craved it. It was good.

SPEAKER_08 36:56

Yeah, it's like I actually crave it. It was that good. It was a cauliflower sauce. It wasn't like a pizza, but the pizza.

SPEAKER_10 37:02

I don't like cauliflower crust, but that one was good. I don't like the colour.

SPEAKER_03 37:08

And then you're not you're getting more nutrients. Because it you know, you look at it like the nutrients that you're putting in your body, like the all the whole grain as opposed to white. White's just been stripped from all of the sten. Exactly.

SPEAKER_10 37:23

Have you heard like people in like like like in Italy or other countries come here and eat and they get wicked sick, they have all sorts of problems. But people, people that have um gluten intolerance go there and they're fine.

SPEAKER_08 37:33

Top notch. Yep.

SPEAKER_10 37:35

Like what so what do we do? What do we do? What are we eating?

SPEAKER_08 37:37

We everything we're eating a bunch of processes.

SPEAKER_10 37:40

That's it.

SPEAKER_08 37:40

They're making us sick for a big pharma. That's the part that's hard.

SPEAKER_09 37:43

It's like what's processed and what's not. You know what you can go back.

SPEAKER_03 37:48

Here's the rule of thumb for that, too. If it comes out of the ground or from a tree, or like is an animal, like you're pretty much good. Like so many people, I think they get hung up on stupid arguments. Like people will say, Whether potatoes are bad, or too much carbs, or which is nonsense. There are like carp uh complex carbohydrates and simple carbohydrates. Like simple carbohydrate carbohydrates will just turn into sugar in your body. Like there are carbohydrates and chips that are bad. But you know what? A potato has complex carbohydrates that your body needs to produce energy. And also And you'll feel better. And you'll feel better. I can guarantee if somebody is really, really struggling to lose weight, it's not because they're eating too many potatoes. They might be eating too much. Too many potato chips. Yeah, or like French fries or something. One of my buddies, yeah. One of my buddy does. Like eggs are one of the best sources of protein. And yes, they have cholesterol in it, and yes, you have fat, but there are healthy fats and healthy cholesterol. I think I read.

SPEAKER_10 38:52

I think I read a study that said if you eat a lot of eggs, like it helps with Alzheimer's, possibly. Like it, like something about the yolks and like whatever it does.

SPEAKER_03 39:00

Like, I I could be wrong with that, but I truly believe that a lot of diseases in our society are based from what we put in our body.

SPEAKER_10 39:06

Yeah, dude, all the dyes, all the like the all the like the um like the Amish spray and that that shit. Yeah, the roundup.

SPEAKER_03 39:13

Yeah, like why do you think we're all struggling with the stuff that's gonna be? Apples are small, exactly.

SPEAKER_10 39:18

Vegetables and fruit, all the metals in our body. They look sometimes, they don't look great. You know what I mean? Because that's that's how it should be. It's just natural that way. You know what I mean? If you have an apple tree, unless you're spraying pesticides on it, they're like, it's gonna look messed up, exactly.

SPEAKER_08 39:31

They're little and they have holes and dents, and they're delicious.

SPEAKER_09 39:35

With the dyes, uh, this is just funny, but uh kind of stupid, I guess. But this guy is listening to, he's like, it just made me think. He's he was putting cheese in his food, and he was like, It's cheddar cheese, and we eat a ton of cheddar cheese, but we always have the orange cheese. And he's like, It's white, like milk's white, like we use the white cheddar. And I'm like, Oh no shit. I didn't even think about that. I'm just gonna start buying white cheddar now. But that was a while ago. But I mean that's that's my that's what I do to stay healthy.

SPEAKER_03 40:04

Sharp cheddar.

SPEAKER_09 40:05

I just don't buy yellow cheese. Yeah, or white cheese.

SPEAKER_03 40:09

But you know what? I swear it's small things like that, like little things. And the sharp cheddar is the best kind of cheddar that you can have if you compare the different types of cheeses. That would be like one of the hopes. Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_10 40:20

Well, that's like tastes. That's like cereal though. I love cereal, I love like fruity pebbles, I love all that stuff. But I swear to god, man, like the next day I go to the bathroom, man, that it's green. I'm like, I'm like, yeah, some weird color. Like, that's definitely not natural. My body was filtering that shit out. I just I stopped every once in a while I'll eat cereal. If I do eat cereal, it's like cream of wheat or like oatmeal or something.

SPEAKER_09 40:42

I like special K. That's like the only cereal that I eat. And I like I I quit eating cereal like a long time ago because I haven't been a child for a long time. But you know, cereal is not for children, but I like her, but I like it, right?

SPEAKER_10 40:56

Sir, sir. It's not a good thing.

SPEAKER_09 40:58

But I was watching this commercial one day, and it's like women eat special K, and it's like so good for them, and they're losing weight, and also and I'm like, well, women can eat special K. Why can't I eat special K? So I do eat a lot of special K. It doesn't help my boobs are getting bigger. You're a badass.

SPEAKER_10 41:16

Other than that, you're a badass. You can eat whatever you want, bro. That's right.

SPEAKER_02 41:19

Okay, whatever you want.

SPEAKER_10 41:20

Julia eats um or um uh Cheerios all the time. She had low iron and they wanted to do the shot and all this stuff. She started taking the shot because of her iron was so low, and she got wicked sick. One day I walked out and she's laying on the floor. She sent me a message, I didn't see it. She's like curled up, she couldn't like focus. I'm like, what the hell? And I guess that's like a side effect of taking iron and stuff. And so she stopped taking it. She's like, I cannot do this. This is it's fucking me up. So she went to the doctor and I said, Is there any other way? Can I eat something? And then they said Cheerios are high in iron. So she eats Cheerios like two or three times a day. And she loves Cheerios. She likes craves. She's like, it's weird. I'm like, it's probably your iron. Your iron, she's probably your body's probably craving that shit, right? So she eats it for breakfast every day. She'll eat it for a snack before she goes to bed. Sometimes in the middle of the day, she's like, Is it weird? I crave Cheerios all the time. Oh, I love them. I'm like, no, you have just plain, not not honey, not just Cheerios.

SPEAKER_03 42:07

Yes. And it can be overwhelming to go shopping and like you said, to know what to buy and to learn how to read the label labels and what you're looking for and what you don't. I don't know how to read it.

SPEAKER_10 42:17

I don't know if you heard me earlier in the podcast.

SPEAKER_05 42:19

We heard them.

SPEAKER_10 42:20

I'm just looking at it.

SPEAKER_08 42:21

So shop the outside perimeter. Is this Russian? Yes.

SPEAKER_09 42:24

By outside perimeter, she doesn't mean the drive-thru at McDonald's. That's it's not the same thing.

SPEAKER_06 42:31

So offended right now.

SPEAKER_10 42:33

I love McDonald's, my guilty pleasure.

SPEAKER_06 42:34

Today, I'm going there as soon as the word.

SPEAKER_10 42:36

But we don't eat there a lot. Like once every once every 10 days or so, once every two weeks, the kids want to go there. So I'm like, I can't say no to that. Can't say no to my brother. But my daughter, everybody's wanting, everybody's into Taco Bell right now. I don't know. My daughter's Dirty Gringos. Another shout out for Dirty Gringos. Dirty Gringo is awesome. Love Dirty Gringos. I got in a kick for a little bit. I haven't seen Marie in a while, and I kept going in there. He's like, What do you? I'm like, I just you were going here and he he uh he said something to me about you. He said, I think you stopped in, or he listened to the podcast. I think he listens to the podcast.

SPEAKER_09 43:04

Yeah, he told me that he did. But it's been a while since I've been there. I gotta get back out there, but it's so hard during summer because baseball is just it's it's it's not every day, but it feels like it's all the time. So I just I don't know. I don't have time, but I gotta get back out there because I do love it. But he makes everything for the most part.

SPEAKER_10 43:22

He does everything, and that's what's cool about like I know I own a burger joint, but Julia she goes she sells 200 burgers a day, 200, 200 or 250 burgers a day, and 100 pounds of potatoes, but she makes her french fries scratch, yeah. Yeah, it's deep fry and all that, but it's still real French, it's still real potatoes. She makes the patties every day, it's real, you know what I mean? Real man?

SPEAKER_09 43:41

All the stuff, her much rather go to Wimpy's than McDonald's.

SPEAKER_10 43:44

Yeah, it's it's real. And you're gonna feel better. One of my buddies like loved McDonald's, and he's like, he can't do it anymore. He's like, I go to Wimpy's instead. He's like, it's way better. I like it, it tastes better. It does, it tastes it tastes amazing. So we'll we'll always go with it.

SPEAKER_03 44:00

I always listen in the car so I don't actually watch that. That was awesome.

SPEAKER_09 44:03

Yeah, we'll do it again. I felt I know that you said you don't like McDonald's. He was so mean to me. This is the bullshit that we have to put up with.

SPEAKER_03 44:15

Oh God.

SPEAKER_10 44:17

Josh, um, don't come next time, okay? Why don't you just stay home and listen? Okay. And uh I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna put someone else there. Okay. Hey, there's someone walking by right now.

SPEAKER_07 44:29

He says, hey, you want to be on the podcast? Next Tuesday. No, we're not taking anybody.

SPEAKER_10 44:37

I wasn't being mean. I was I was I was explaining to you like this this delicious burger combination that you didn't like. And I was like, when when uh didn't you try it?

SPEAKER_09 44:49

I'll take a sip of your drink if you want to. I think he tried it. When Ethan Bacon, I did try it. When Ethan Bacon was talking about it, I was like He lives off those, by the way.

SPEAKER_10 44:57

He's always telling me, I ate like three of those McGangbangs.

SPEAKER_09 45:00

I'm like and he's wicked skinny, and I mean he's not really necessarily healthy, but I was like, if it's called gangbang, it can't be too bad.

SPEAKER_10 45:07

Actually, we can't but it was it was it was pretty bad. We keep calling it the McGangbang, but I was later informed that that is not actually the McGangbang. McGangbang is I think a uh fish.

SPEAKER_06 45:18

No.

SPEAKER_10 45:18

It's a fish and the meat. No, and I think that the we were calling it wrong. It might it's a different combination, but to me, I don't know. The McGang bang. You think people actually go and like order that at the next time we have a meeting, I'm getting one. You're gonna try it.

SPEAKER_03 45:32

You're trying it.

SPEAKER_10 45:33

Don't force you to eat it.

SPEAKER_09 45:34

Put into your healthy diet.

unknown 45:36

I have a photo of it.

SPEAKER_00 45:37

It it shows like how big, man. It's like you take uh like a cheeseburger, yeah, and this is I don't know which one. Uh like I think there's multiple versions of it. This one is basically like he opened up like a McDouble and like That's what Google says. He just put the entire burger inside with a selection of bread.

SPEAKER_10 46:02

So it just has tons of bread?

SPEAKER_00 46:03

Yeah.

SPEAKER_09 46:04

Well it says is it's created by placing an entire McChicken sandwich directly inside a McDouble or a double cheeseburger.

SPEAKER_10 46:12

Yeah, that's too much bread. That's what it says.

SPEAKER_09 46:14

But I saw that the other day. I still haven't tried this.

SPEAKER_08 46:17

I love bread. I like bread, but that's just too much. Bread and cheese.

SPEAKER_09 46:21

Good bread. Bread bread is really. What were you saying? You saw something the other day? Yeah, I saw this thing the other day. They took uh, you know the um the pickles that are like the sandwich pickles, the long ones?

SPEAKER_08 46:31

The spear ones.

SPEAKER_09 46:32

Yeah, but they're like sliced already, so they're flat. And he puts them down and then he covers them with cheese and he puts them in the oven for like it was like 20 minutes or something. Yeah, and the you know how the cheese, when you leave it in there, it gets hard. So it came out and they're both hard, and then they put their meat and lettuce and tomato and everything and use the pickles and cheese as well. That sounded so rough for those 30 seconds right there. I want to eat that so bad.

SPEAKER_10 46:54

Yeah, but you want to eat pickles. I want to eat that. I want to eat that pickle so bad. I love pickles, but dude, they're gonna make those super low calorie, they're like a they're like a superfood, right? Help that.

SPEAKER_09 47:03

My son Isaiah says that's a cucumber. When everybody says, you know, you get oh, that's a pickle. You're in a pickle. Isaiah always says, That's a cucumber.

SPEAKER_02 47:12

That's a cucumber.

SPEAKER_09 47:15

I used to go to McDonald's every day. And people will be like, like, you don't eat McDonald's? I don't. Well, I see you there every day. Yeah, because their coffee's a dollar. But now it just tastes like water. Yeah, so I don't go there anymore at all.

SPEAKER_10 47:30

But McDonald's, their their burger, all their food is small and just bad and processed. Did you see that? We probably talked about something here before, but did you see that lady who has a bag that she put in there in her closet from like some super bowl from like 20 years ago or something like that? And every year she opens it and just looks at it and puts it back and it looks still perfect. No bugs, no nothing. We'll eat it and it's not decaying. That means there's so many preservatives and chemicals.

SPEAKER_08 47:54

Yeah, but hopefully by putting those in our body, we regenerate our and we preserve our beauty.

SPEAKER_00 48:02

Did you see the face he made? The skin's gonna have the consistency of a McDonald's burger bun. It's gonna be nice and smooth.

SPEAKER_07 48:10

It's gonna be hard, but it's gonna be perfect just like a McDonald's bun.

SPEAKER_00 48:14

He said it's the same. Okay, listen. That thing looks the same. I guarantee you, if you picked up a McDonald's burger that was 10 years ago, that twinkie, I touched it. That thing is hard as a rock.

SPEAKER_04 48:26

Is it hard?

unknown 48:27

Yeah, it's hard.

SPEAKER_04 48:28

Listen, all I love is uh your face is smooth as a McDonald's burger.

SPEAKER_10 48:31

You can be over 40 and hard as a rock. You can be over 40 and hard as a rock. Yeah, like the listen to Josh's five-point system. His one-point system.

SPEAKER_03 48:45

It's gonna shatter like a glass.

SPEAKER_10 48:47

Oh, yeah, it's it's it's it's it's just dry, but it's not fulfilling because it's a McDonald's cheeseburger. So you so you have this, you have a book out right now, you have one coming out soon, you said too, right?

SPEAKER_03 48:57

Yeah, the summer, summer soul, the one that's coming out on the summer soul.

SPEAKER_10 49:01

And that's coming out June 20th, you said, or you're doing a party June 20th.

SPEAKER_03 49:04

The party's June 20th. It's the release. Technically out there, I don't even have one in my hands yet. So but they're on order. And you have physical copies of everything, right?

unknown 49:13

Yes.

SPEAKER_10 49:14

So you can pick this up, you can go to Amazon or whatever.

SPEAKER_03 49:16

Yep, they're on Amazon. Um, I'll have some there at if you're actually at the thing. Like I, you know, have uh some sets available of the first three.

SPEAKER_10 49:26

Um and do you have them at any local stores or any bookstores or anything like that, or just kind of like I haven't done too much.

SPEAKER_03 49:33

It's been since the beginning of the year that I've done it, and I've been like in my office all night writing, and I haven't done a whole lot of the legwork to I I've been using them. And actually that's why I published them, was because I needed them. Like I needed to use them in my work. Yeah, so I started using them, but I haven't really done like a launch for them.

SPEAKER_10 49:55

Yeah, so it's more it's more like a tool for what you're doing. Yes. And you can give it to these.

SPEAKER_03 50:02

Yeah, I will do more. And there has been some people that contacted me, like a guy from St. Lawrence that that heard about it somehow through somebody that works with him, that like the hockey coach over at St. Lawrence or something. But um, so mostly it's just I use it all the time in my in my work, in my meditation shop workshops. And because we have what I what I do with a lot of my coaching is that we work through those different principles. I also have like daily reflections, journaling prompts, like things that they can explore those things about themselves. So I'm literally like using the material every day. Like sometimes in my workshops, I read a chapter and we work through it, like we reflect on it, and then and then if it's somebody that's doing one-on-one coaching, I might send them like actually, I usually send them a daily reflection, and then it would be a journaling prompt that will have three questions for them to kind of think about yourself. Like if you are wanting to take back more control of your life and you feel like things are kind of chaotic and you don't know uh maybe your work is overly stressful and you don't know how to get control of it and it's overwhelming your life. So then that journal question might be something about like what what do you feel in your life is overwhelming right now so that you can identify it and then you can start to identify like little things that you can do to take back your own power in the situation so that you can find a way to get through those days. I've done that before. My work, I work with homeless housing, I work with a lot of you know, different, um, different diagnoses, things like that. It can be overwhelming. And I was feeling like that. Actually, that was where that one started was it was like, okay, I am choosing to go to work every day and I'm choosing to step through these doors. So how am I going to make this beneficial to them and also something that I feel is in line with what I believe and rewarding to myself? Like I have to set whatever boundaries I need to set, I need to look at what control I have in that situation, identify the things that are outside of my control, but then figure out how I'm going to make it okay for me. If I choose to walk through those doors every day, then I have to find a way to do it so that I'm not feeling burnt out at the end of every day. Or if I can't find a way, then maybe it's time to look for another job, you know, something like that. Like those are an example of some of the obstacles.

SPEAKER_10 52:30

You should make you should make a little pocket pro book that you carry with you and you pull it out, little little little things like, oh my god. You know what I mean? Well have it broken down.

SPEAKER_03 52:38

So here is what I initially did. So I was writing a book with these 52 weeks of reflections. And then one of my clients said, Well, have you ever thought about making it into an app? And I was like, Well, I'm gonna learn how to do that now. So I dove into making an app and I did I made the whole thing, and it's beautiful, and it's like uh really great. It has you can use voice to text for the reflections every day, and all you can do share cards. But and I registered to become an Apple developer, and then I had a problem because I have a podcast that I've done for step by step that's a lot about housing and things like that. I had two usernames and it kept somehow diverting everything to step by step, and I got so frustrated that it's kind of sitting right now. I was like, okay, I gotta walk away from this project. I can figure out a lot of things, but when it gets to code on that type of shit, like so I use like AI to build the app, but the problem with that is that if you run into a problem, there's no live person to talk to, and I was just pulling my hair out.

SPEAKER_10 53:49

Hey uh Grok, can you fix the problem, please, sir?

SPEAKER_03 53:52

Yeah, yeah. They're like, I understand your frustration.

SPEAKER_10 53:55

Have you ever heard of people like being nice to their their um AI companions up just in case or like Siri? Because only on Salah. Just in case shit goes down, you want to make sure you were nice to them for a long time. So make sure if you are using it, you're you are being nice.

SPEAKER_09 54:09

But listen, guys, we are we're we're getting pretty awesome, but I honestly I liked it better when you were just telling us to have kids do everything for us.

SPEAKER_10 54:17

That was you had me there, slave labor, uh, not AI, but kids, have the kids do it. Johnny, pick up that rock, write me a song. I'm mad right now. I want to be a angry song. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_08 54:32

I think you're an inspiration. Oh, yeah, I'm super proud of all the work that you keep on doing. So don't keep on doing it.

SPEAKER_03 54:42

Keep plugging away, keep pushing away, keep pushing. I feel like I can't not do it because it's like well, not even told us about it.

SPEAKER_08 54:49

So get to work, girl.

SPEAKER_03 54:50

I feel like it's like something that comes through me instead of from me. Does that make sense? It's like I'm a vessel, like there is a bigger purpose to the work that I'm doing, and I believe in that. I do.

SPEAKER_10 55:01

The universe is pushing you, you know. So, so what so why don't you give yourself a little plug? And like, so what's your book? Where can people find it? And you have a podcast, and yep.

SPEAKER_03 55:10

So um the becoming series is on Amazon. You can order that. Um, you can also find I do like weekly blog posts. I do, I do have a podcast for becoming starting with each of the things.

SPEAKER_10 55:23

And where can they people find this stuff?

SPEAKER_03 55:25

Um my website is totaltransformation.life. That's the name of my company. It's total transformation. And um all of there are links to everything on there. So you can find the books, you can find you can find the podcast, you can find my writings that I do every week. Um, you can find information about the event with the summer solstice.

SPEAKER_08 55:46

You can you can find all that stuff on totaltransformation.

SPEAKER_10 55:51

Yeah, you gotta check that stuff out. So, Josh, what kind of joke you got about this, huh? You gotta make fun of the girls doing really cool shit, huh?

SPEAKER_09 55:58

I was going to, but I decided not to because I thought maybe she could beat me up.

SPEAKER_03 56:02

So I actually am surprised that I didn't hear more. I was expecting like, so do you believe in aliens?

SPEAKER_07 56:09

Well, girl, you can come back.

SPEAKER_10 56:11

We'll bring it back on because we're we're gonna get we're gonna get bored of this really goddamn quick. Okay, here she has doggone hell shit. I got so what about aliens? Do aliens need your uh five-point plan? Joke time.

SPEAKER_09 56:25

So no joke, huh? No, so uh this man and woman they meet in a bar and uh you know they kind of hit it off and they head back to her house and they get inside and they you know they start uh whatever, and he takes off his shirt and heads over and washes his hands. He comes back, he takes off his socks, and he goes over and he washes his hands. And the woman says, You must be a dentist. And he's like, Oh my god, how did you know? She's like, Well, every time you take something off, you're washing your hands. I just, you know, dentist. So anyway, uh the night progresses, and they go to the bedroom, and you know, like they finish up and they roll over, and the woman says, You're you must be a really good dentist. And he said, I am, how did you know? She said, I didn't even feel a thing.

SPEAKER_05 57:10

Oh, wow.

SPEAKER_10 57:13

Well, guys, we're gonna wrap it up with that one.

SPEAKER_07 57:18

That was great, Carrie.

SPEAKER_10 57:20

Thanks for coming on. Thanks for having me. We'll be talking soon. Check out her stuff. Go to her website, which is totaltransformation. Totaltransformation dot life. Josh, Renee, Carrie. It was a pleasure having a conversation guys. We'll see you next Tuesday. Peace.